Islamic Regulation Concerning: Revert Married to Non-Muslim

Assalamualikum Everyone.

It is relatively common knowledge that it is haraam(forbidden) for a Muslim woman to marry a Non-Muslim.

However, what if the Muslim woman converted during her marriage with a Non-Muslim?

I am going to quote an answer from a knowledgeable Muslim sister I asked concerning this: From what I know is that in the beginning she could stay with him in the same house but with no marital relationship, and give him a chance to study Islam. She should approach him in a good way, meaning that she should give him dawa to Islam in the best ways possible with a lot of patience. Also she should keep on making dua for Allah SWT to open up his heart to Islam.


Sheikh Yusuf Al-Qaradawi and other knowledgeable scholars have stated of the reluctance to tell the Muslima to divorce her husband immediately after she becomes a Muslim, particularly if she has children, and her husband can be educated(through Da'wa) and accept Islam.

The following is a quote from the "Ask the Scholar" (question-and-answer) section on http://www.islamonline/:

 "-in this case, I would say that the lady should work on her husband and try to give him time to consider Islam in an attempt to embrace Islam and resume their matrimonial life. If her husband accepts Islam, then marriage is to be resumed; otherwise she has to leave him. If she stays with him then she will be committing a huge sin which might result also to the stage of Riddah (apostasy) if she gets to know the ruling and still prefers to stay with her husband.  A Muslim lady must not take this ruling lightly for its violation might cause her to lose not only her acts of worships but her faith (Iman) too, if she insists on violating the Islamic ruling regarding this.”

Read more at: http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?pagename=IslamOnline-English-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503545554#ixzz0joyVumiU

To the Muslim revert who commented on this blog with her situation and concern: I advise you to, if you have not already, to approach the idea of conversion to Islam to him, letting him know that your marriage is at risk. In the meantime, cease marital relations, pray to Allah(SWT) to allow faith(in Islam) to enter his heart, and constantly(and patiently) make Da'wa to him(invite him to Islam by providing him with knowledge of Islam). I pray for Islam to enter his heart, and Insha' Allah all other readers reading this will as well. Ameen.


Unfortunately, I have not been able to find out how long the husband has to convert to Islam or else it is complusory the wife must leave him. If any have that information, please comment, including sources that you may have(specific scholar, hadith, etc).

What the... Jahannam(Hell Fire)?

Foul language in a Muslim's life?? by Asma bint Shameem

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If you listen to the conversation of the average Muslim youth talking to each other, unfortunately this is what you will hear.......expletives, bad words and cusses. In fact, foul language is often heard as part of their everyday life at school, universities and work place.

What's worse is that they use these words without thinking.....without remorse and without even realizing that these words are obscene, filthy or repulsive....using four letter words in every sentence and in every conversation.

Using the words 'hell' and calling each other 'dog' and 'gay' like it's nothing. And these are some of the more 'decent' words. There are other, much worse words that are totally unmentionable. May Allaah protect us.
These people, like their non-Muslim peers, seem to be completely desensitized to the use of foul and offensive words, including many that make others cringe with shame and embarrassment.

Yet, when you reprimand them for using such language, what do they say? "O come on! This is how everyone talks!" or "This is how I 'express' myself. or "We don't mean it in a bad way, we're just joking around with each other!"

Subhaan Allaah! Calling each other bad names and using foul language!
Since when did that become a 'joke'? Since when did cussing become part of a Muslim's vocabulary?
And, sad to say, not only the youth, but even some of the adults are guilty of the same. And, there are some, who may speak very decently under 'normal' circumstances, but when they are provoked or they get into a fight with someone, nothing comes out of their mouths except cusses, bad words and filth.

What a stark contrast between this and what the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) used to do.

The behavior of the Prophet (sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam)

Anas bin Malik said: "The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) was not one who would abuse (others) or say obscene words, or curse (others)..." (Bukhaari)

And Abdullah bin 'Amr said: "The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) never used bad language neither a 'Faahish nor a Mutafaahish. He used to say 'The best amongst you are those who have the best manners and character.' (Bukhaari)

And he (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: “The believer is not a slanderer, one who curses a great deal, one who indulges in obscenity or who in engages in foul talk.” (Tirmidhi-- saheeh by al-Albaani)

What Allaah says about cussing:

".....nor defame one another, nor insult one another by nicknames. How bad is it, to insult one's brother after having Faith [i.e. to call your Muslim brother as: "O sinner", or "O wicked", etc.]. And whosoever does not repent, then such are indeed Zaalimoon (wrong-doers). (Surah Hujaraat:11)

Hellfire because of cussing:

Realize, dear brother/sister, that using foul language and cussing is a sin, even in joke and this is a characteristic of the people of Hellfire.

The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said:
"The inmates of Hell are of five types...." And among them he mentioned "...the miser, the liar and those who are in the habit of abusing people and using obscene and foul language." (Muslim)

And while advising Mu'aadh, (RA), the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: “Restrain this,” i.e., your tongue. I (Mu'aadh) said: O Messenger of Allaah, will we be called to account for what we say? He said: “May your mother be bereft of you, O Mu’aadh! Will people be thrown in Hell on their faces or their noses for anything other than the harvest of their tongues?” (al-Tirmidhi-- Saheeh by al-Albaani)

The worst people on the Day of Judgment

Know that people who use bad words and have dirty mouths will be one of the worst people on the Day of Judgment.

The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: "O 'Aaishah! Have you ever seen me speaking a bad and dirty language? (Remember that) the worst people in Allah's sight on the Day of Resurrection will be those whom the people desert or leave in order to save themselves from their dirty language or from their transgression." (Bukhaari)

Cussing is evil

Cussing and swearing is so bad that even the angels cannot tolerate it.

Ibn 'Abbas said, "Two men defamed one another in the time of the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace. One of them reviled the other who remained silent. The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, remained seated. Then the other man answered him back and the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, got up. He was asked, "You got up?" He said, "The angels left, so I left with them. While this man was silent, the angels were answering the one who cursed him. When he answered, the angels left." (Adab al-Mufrad)

It is a sin

Someone asked:
"What should be done with a person who calls a Muslim a dog, pig, or other offensive word? Is it a sin?"
Imaam an-Nawawi said: "It is a sin and he should be punished (ta’zeer – punishment to be specified by the qaadi/Muslim judge). He also has to repent." (Fataawa al-Imaam al-Nawawi)

Subhaan Allaah! Being punished for calling your Muslim brother 'dog'! And yet, we hear our youth calling each other 'dog' and 'nigga' and much worse, in every sentence, while they think nothing, absolutely nothing of it!
What would Imaam an-Nawawi say if he heard some of the Muslims talking today?!!

What to do?

The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: "Whoever believes in God the Last Day must speak good or keep silent." (Bukhaari)

1. Remember these beautiful words of the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) and either speak good or keep quiet.
2. Stay away from foul language, cussing and evil words, because YOU are a Mu'min and a Mumin does not utter filthy words or cuss at anyone.
3. Equally important is to stay away from people who speak such bad language. Because the more you hear it, the more desensitized one becomes to its evil, until a time comes when its not bad anymore.

In the end:

Bad words show disrespect to those being spoken to and a total lack of self-respect. The one who stays away from filthy language is not being a prude or old-fashioned; rather he /she is a Mu'min and a follower of the one with the best manners ever...that is, the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam). Use of such evil words is disrespectful, plain and simple. It is not to be tolerated nor is it an acceptable behavior in Islam.

"Truly a man utters words to which he attaches no importance, and by them he falls into the Fire of Jahannam, and truly a man utters words to which he attaches no importance, and by them Allah raises him into the Garden." (Bukhaari)

Not a word does he (or she) utter but there is a watcher by him ready (to record it)’ (Surah Qaaf:18)