ASAK
Knowledge is very essential for a Muslim to seek...which means that it is imperative that we must strive to achieve an education. High school is a very important stepping stone on your path through life; therefore, to have a better chance at both succeeding and enjoying high school, it is wise to prepare yourself.
I'm inviting everyone to submit "My Tips for High School"; simply comment with a list of tips for anyone either entering or in high school. It can relate to anything including but not limited to: maintaining your Islamic Identity, sustaining a good GPA, choosing the appropriate classes, and displaying the right attitude towards your classmates. After August 23rd, insha' Allah, I will compile all the lists into a single post which will be published on August 24th.
In the meantime, I have my own list:
"My Tips for High School":
1. Don't let peer pressure change your beliefs (as a Muslim.) If you believe firmly that something is haraam as a Muslim, then you should not adapt to conform to others' practices simply because they are pressuring you into doing so.
2. Be careful when selecting AP classes. But also challenge yourself. Take the right amount and right type of classes that will get you to where you want to go: out of high school as a graduate and into a good university, insha' Allah.
3. Be confident.
"I was terrified coming back to school sophomore year. But acting confident really helped. First of all, acting confident actually made me confident. And second, confidence implies a lack of concern for other people's opinion, which paradoxically, makes others value your opinion more. High school kids are odd in that way."-Efrat Hakak, WholeFamily.com Intern
Once again, the deadline is August 23rd.
ASAK,
Thursday, August 19, 2010
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
Recent, Devastating Flooding in Pakistan-They Need Aid
ASAK
Please take some time to update yourself on the disastrous situation in Pakistan(there is a Yahoo article at: http://news.yahoo.com/s/yblog_upshot/20100816/wl_yblog_upshot/one-fifth-of-pakistan-under-water-as-flooding-disaster-continues)
Various organizations are available through which you can help bring relief to those affected by the floods in Pakistan. One of them is CARE, "one of the world's largest private international humanitarian organizations." To donate online through CARE you can visit: https://my.care.org/site/Donation2?df_id=7601&7601.donation=form1&s_src=redgpakistanfloods7601&s_subsrc=pakistangencareishelping&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_term=donate%20to%20pakistan%20flooding&utm_content=careishelping&utm_campaign=red7601pakistanfloodsgen
insha' Allah we can open our hearts to those suffering in Pakistan and help bring them relief. May Allah(SWT) Bless all those who have donated to Pakistan, and alleviate Pakistan's current condition.
Related articles: (Clinton texts a $10 donation to Pakistan flood relief: http://washingtonscene.thehill.com/in-the-know/36-news/5421-clinton-texts-a-10-donation-to-pakistan-flood-relief), (UN says millions without help in Pakistan floods: http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20100817/ap_on_bi_ge/as_pakistan_floods)
Please take some time to update yourself on the disastrous situation in Pakistan(there is a Yahoo article at: http://news.yahoo.com/s/yblog_upshot/20100816/wl_yblog_upshot/one-fifth-of-pakistan-under-water-as-flooding-disaster-continues)
Various organizations are available through which you can help bring relief to those affected by the floods in Pakistan. One of them is CARE, "one of the world's largest private international humanitarian organizations." To donate online through CARE you can visit: https://my.care.org/site/Donation2?df_id=7601&7601.donation=form1&s_src=redgpakistanfloods7601&s_subsrc=pakistangencareishelping&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_term=donate%20to%20pakistan%20flooding&utm_content=careishelping&utm_campaign=red7601pakistanfloodsgen
insha' Allah we can open our hearts to those suffering in Pakistan and help bring them relief. May Allah(SWT) Bless all those who have donated to Pakistan, and alleviate Pakistan's current condition.
Related articles: (Clinton texts a $10 donation to Pakistan flood relief: http://washingtonscene.thehill.com/in-the-know/36-news/5421-clinton-texts-a-10-donation-to-pakistan-flood-relief), (UN says millions without help in Pakistan floods: http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20100817/ap_on_bi_ge/as_pakistan_floods)
Wednesday, August 11, 2010
Ramadan Mubarak!-and Video of Muslim Basketball Player
Ramadan Mubarak!
To view previous posts on Ramadan, you can use the Search gadget.
Below is a video that was emailed to me...you're welcome to comment with any reflections you may have.
To view previous posts on Ramadan, you can use the Search gadget.
Below is a video that was emailed to me...you're welcome to comment with any reflections you may have.
Sunday, June 6, 2010
In Response to Questions: Common Q's as to Marriage in Islam
Original Comment:
Hi, I have a few questions about marriage.
1. Is it bad not to get married?
2. Why the h*ll are you supposed to get arranged marriages?
3. Is it haram not to have an arranged marriage?
4. What is with arranged marriages?
5. Why would you want to marry someone you don't frickin know?
6. Why is Islam so sexist that woman can't marry non-muslims but men can? I mean woman can have control. We're not weak like we're depicted as.
I want to marry a non-muslim who is totally okay with me being muslim and if it's haram I plan to not like 'be Muslim' but like just believe everything I believe now like Allah, Muhammad, Ibrahim, and all the other prophets Muslims believe in. And pray to Allah the way I do now (the proper way) but not 'be' a Muslim so I can marry him.
I WANT ANSWERS ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Well, first, Assalamualaikum. In answer to your first question, it is not considered Haram to not marry but it is advisable and recommended for several reasons. One reason is that it is the Sunnah, and another is that it helps to prevent fornication, engaging in haraam relationships. There are many benefits to being married but if you feel you simply cannot get married for one reason or another then that's up to you.
In answer to your 2-5 questions, I will cite the following from http://www.jannah.org/sisters/marr.html:
"There is a halal arranged marriage and a haram one. It is OK to arrange marriages by suggestion and recommendation as long as both parties are agreeable. The other arranged marriage is when parents choose the future spouse and the couple concerned are forced or have no choice in the matter. "
That's it in a nutshell; in Islam it is not allowed to force a man and a woman into marriage. It may be of culture but it is not of Islam.
In reply to Question 6:
Allah(SWT) Decreed that; and for that sole reason you should obey Him. Allah(SWT) is the Wise and All-Knowing, and He Knows the nature of those he created. We must trust that He Knows Best. Of course, it is encouraged to attempt to discern God's Wisdom. For example, the consumption of alcohol and pork. We can relate to widely known scientific facts when explaining why God would command us to avoid the consumption of such. For some of Allah(SWT)'s Decrees His Wisdom is apparent but for others not so much. In this case we must rely on our faith in Allah(SWT).
Now who depicts you(or women in general) as weak? The media, general perceptions of people? Allah(SWT) definitely did not state that women are weak and inferior to men and therefore they cannot marry Non-Muslim men. In addition, usually the male is the one who sets how the children will be raised. And if the male is a Non-Muslim, how would the child recieve a healthy Islamic upbringing?
Insha' Allah you will put the importance of sustaining your Islam over your desire. In the meantime, you can make Da'wa to him(the Non-Muslim), educating him about Islam and pray to Allah(SWT) that he becomes Muslim. Once again, it is important to put Islam first, the pleasure of Allah(SWT) first.
I hope that I sufficiently answered your questions and would welcome a comment in response.
Hi, I have a few questions about marriage.
1. Is it bad not to get married?
2. Why the h*ll are you supposed to get arranged marriages?
3. Is it haram not to have an arranged marriage?
4. What is with arranged marriages?
5. Why would you want to marry someone you don't frickin know?
6. Why is Islam so sexist that woman can't marry non-muslims but men can? I mean woman can have control. We're not weak like we're depicted as.
I want to marry a non-muslim who is totally okay with me being muslim and if it's haram I plan to not like 'be Muslim' but like just believe everything I believe now like Allah, Muhammad, Ibrahim, and all the other prophets Muslims believe in. And pray to Allah the way I do now (the proper way) but not 'be' a Muslim so I can marry him.
I WANT ANSWERS ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
_______________________________________________________________________________
Well, first, Assalamualaikum. In answer to your first question, it is not considered Haram to not marry but it is advisable and recommended for several reasons. One reason is that it is the Sunnah, and another is that it helps to prevent fornication, engaging in haraam relationships. There are many benefits to being married but if you feel you simply cannot get married for one reason or another then that's up to you.
In answer to your 2-5 questions, I will cite the following from http://www.jannah.org/sisters/marr.html:
"There is a halal arranged marriage and a haram one. It is OK to arrange marriages by suggestion and recommendation as long as both parties are agreeable. The other arranged marriage is when parents choose the future spouse and the couple concerned are forced or have no choice in the matter. "
That's it in a nutshell; in Islam it is not allowed to force a man and a woman into marriage. It may be of culture but it is not of Islam.
In reply to Question 6:
Allah(SWT) Decreed that; and for that sole reason you should obey Him. Allah(SWT) is the Wise and All-Knowing, and He Knows the nature of those he created. We must trust that He Knows Best. Of course, it is encouraged to attempt to discern God's Wisdom. For example, the consumption of alcohol and pork. We can relate to widely known scientific facts when explaining why God would command us to avoid the consumption of such. For some of Allah(SWT)'s Decrees His Wisdom is apparent but for others not so much. In this case we must rely on our faith in Allah(SWT).
Now who depicts you(or women in general) as weak? The media, general perceptions of people? Allah(SWT) definitely did not state that women are weak and inferior to men and therefore they cannot marry Non-Muslim men. In addition, usually the male is the one who sets how the children will be raised. And if the male is a Non-Muslim, how would the child recieve a healthy Islamic upbringing?
Insha' Allah you will put the importance of sustaining your Islam over your desire. In the meantime, you can make Da'wa to him(the Non-Muslim), educating him about Islam and pray to Allah(SWT) that he becomes Muslim. Once again, it is important to put Islam first, the pleasure of Allah(SWT) first.
I hope that I sufficiently answered your questions and would welcome a comment in response.
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