In Response to Questions: Common Q's as to Marriage in Islam

Original Comment:

Hi, I have a few questions about marriage.

1. Is it bad not to get married?
2. Why the h*ll are you supposed to get arranged marriages?
3. Is it haram not to have an arranged marriage?
4. What is with arranged marriages?
5. Why would you want to marry someone you don't frickin know?
6. Why is Islam so sexist that woman can't marry non-muslims but men can? I mean woman can have control. We're not weak like we're depicted as.

I want to marry a non-muslim who is totally okay with me being muslim and if it's haram I plan to not like 'be Muslim' but like just believe everything I believe now like Allah, Muhammad, Ibrahim, and all the other prophets Muslims believe in. And pray to Allah the way I do now (the proper way) but not 'be' a Muslim so I can marry him.

I WANT ANSWERS ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Well, first, Assalamualaikum. In answer to your first question, it is not considered Haram to not marry but it is advisable and recommended for several reasons. One reason is that it is the Sunnah, and another is that it helps to prevent fornication, engaging in haraam relationships. There are many benefits to being married but if you feel you simply cannot get married for one reason or another then that's up to you.
 
 In answer to your 2-5 questions, I will cite the following from http://www.jannah.org/sisters/marr.html:
"There is a halal arranged marriage and a haram one. It is OK to arrange marriages by suggestion and recommendation as long as both parties are agreeable. The other arranged marriage is when parents choose the future spouse and the couple concerned are forced or have no choice in the matter. "
That's it in a nutshell; in Islam it is not allowed to force a man and a woman into marriage. It may be of culture but it is not of Islam.
 
In reply to Question 6:
 Allah(SWT) Decreed that; and for that sole reason you should obey Him. Allah(SWT) is the Wise and All-Knowing, and He Knows the nature of those he created. We must trust that He Knows Best. Of course, it is encouraged to attempt to discern God's Wisdom. For example, the consumption of alcohol and pork. We can relate to widely known scientific facts when explaining why God would command us to avoid the consumption of such. For some of Allah(SWT)'s Decrees His Wisdom is apparent but for others not so much. In this case we must rely on our faith in Allah(SWT).  

Now who depicts you(or women in general) as weak? The media, general perceptions of people? Allah(SWT) definitely did not state that women are weak and inferior to men and therefore they cannot marry Non-Muslim men. In addition, usually the male is the one who sets how the children will be raised. And if the male is a Non-Muslim, how would the child recieve a healthy Islamic upbringing?
 
 Insha' Allah you will put the importance of sustaining your Islam over your desire. In the meantime, you can make Da'wa to him(the Non-Muslim), educating him about Islam and pray to Allah(SWT) that he becomes Muslim. Once again, it is important to put Islam first, the pleasure of Allah(SWT) first.

I hope that I sufficiently answered your questions and would welcome a comment in response.